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Are You Inspiring Or Gloomy?
 
"You find yourself refreshed by the presence of cheerful people. Why not make an honest effort to
confer that pleasure on others? Half the battle is gained if you never allow yourself to say anything
gloomy." - Julia Child, 1912-2004, Chef, Author and Television Personality
 
What is your primary intention with others - to share uplifting, caring energy, or to get sympathy?
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GETTING SYMPATHY
 
When you are
complaining, whining, and being
generally gloomy with others, what do you want?
Are you trying to connect with them through
getting their sympathy? Are you trying to fill some
inner emptiness through getting them to feel sorry
for you? Have you been programmed to believe
that the only way to connect is to share misery
and complaints? Do you compete for having the
worst complaints - the worst illness, the
 
 
 
worst rejections, the worst unfairness, the worst day? Do you ever think to yourself when hearing
another's complaint, "Big deal, that's nothing. Wait until you hear what I'm going through."
 
You might want to take a moment right now and take an honest look inside to see what your hope is
in being gloomy rather than cheerful. What are you not giving to yourself that you want from others?
Are you ignoring your own feelings, and then hoping someone else will give you the attention and
caring you want? Are you avoiding taking responsibility for the choices you make that lead to you
feeling badly? What is your investment in seeing yourself as a victim? Do you believe that getting
momentary sympathy from another is what will make you feel okay about yourself?
 
BEING CARING AND INSPIRING
 
Imagine what might happen in your life if you "never allowed yourself to say anything gloomy," as
Julia Child suggests.
 
In order to do this, you need to give yourself the caring and compassion that you keep trying to get
from others with your complaining, gloomy behavior. Just acting cheerful, when you really feel awful
inside, isn't going to do much for you or for your relationships. Most people can easily pick up
inauthentic behavior, so a superficial Pollyanna attitude is not going to be well received.
 
The real issue here is whether you are loving yourself or abandoning yourself. When you abandon
yourself - by judging yourself, ignoring your feelings, turning to various addictions to avoid your
feelings, and making others responsible for your feelings of worth and lovability - you will feel
gloomy. While it's easy to believe that your misery is due to something external - finances,
relationships, unmet expectations - much of the time these feelings are coming from your own
self-abandonment. If you are abandoning yourself and then acting cheerful, it is likely that the intent
of your cheerfulness is the same as the intent of your complaining - to get something from someone
else to make you feel better.
 
To be truly caring and inspiring to others, you need to be genuinely peaceful inside, and this comes
only from taking loving care of yourself - of your emotions, your physical wellbeing, your spiritual
wellbeing, your financial wellbeing, and your sense of integrity.
 
In order to never allow yourself to say anything gloomy to others, you first have to stop indulging
yourself in saying gloomy things to yourself, which means that you need to become aware of the
overt and subtle ways you scare yourself and judge yourself from your programmed ego wounded
self. As long as you indulge yourself in thinking scary and judgmental thoughts, you will be creating
your own misery, which you then may dump onto others with your whining and complaining.
 
Imagine how wonderful our relationships and our world would be if all of us took responsibility for our
own feelings instead of making others responsible.
 
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