The Women And Their Destinies.
The information for such plot was collected from ago.
Some concrete reasons forced me to look on this
event from the reason-consequence variant, as if on
one whole piece. The people and more precisely - their
damaged understanding of themselves in the historical
context. Not long ago I have read and became greatly
upset from the comments of the ex-soviet women on
the women immigration forums the how they saw
themselves in the scales on new families in the
economically flourishing counties. They live as before,
based on the principles and conditions of the moral
and psychological slavery in which they were born and grew up in the times of the Soviet Union, living
by the proverb: I do not need anything extra, I better survive.
For example their talks that the new foreign husband is much better then previous they had in their
home countries only because he took you to the new world, give the place under the sun in his
apartment, life and country. And if for example he smile to your child, bought him a present and drop
to school in the car- so you can close your eyes and feel that you are already in the Paradise?!
But the Paradise, my dear ex-compatriots, as in widely known, you will never get on this Earth, even
in the scale of such separately taken continent as America. Even if we will try to [persuade ourselves
in it and find the "proper" proofs. And do not try to blame me in dissatisfaction, if I suffer though only
from the absence of creative realization. And the advices of some of your to go and wash the toilets
to earn living sounds like a total nonsense - with this job you will not only humiliate you ego, creative
beginning, pull in somewhere inside you mind, but also close to yourself all the other ways of
development. And for what women- immigrants should go for any work, if big bunch of them, like me,
for example, as on the native Russian will talk, write and think in English? And when the right times
come will evaluate our diplomas adequately.
The critique of the current conditions we need in order to move at least on the half step ahead. Let's
think what will happen if we all at once will become completely satisfied with our life. I will give the
reply - the evolution, I mean the development will stop. Only these inside fire of dissatisfaction were
forcing us in the past time to prefer to the locals the foreign husbands, and till nowadays move the
ships, furrowing the spaces of the sky ocean, and some centuries ago pushes the European
navigator Columbus to open to everybody, including modern us, these America (and wider, the life
abroad) which we start to get familiar with...
However, let's get rid of abstractionism! Here are the concrete sketches of the concrete women
destinies with some names changes of course.
...Lubania is 37 years old. She is designer of the cloths by her professions. Besides she dance
and draw not bad. Last seven years she earned her living by dancing in hotels and clubs in Turkey.
So what? We are doing that for what we are paid well. In turkey she made acquaintance with the
French manager, who proposed to her after some time to marry him. The wedding had place in
October in France. Lubania at once found the work in the new place - she is giving dancing lessons
and draw small painting that she sells in the numerous exhibitions. Now she returned for a wile back
to her home country - to stay with her son and to rest - the new French husband started to beat her
systematically. In February if she will recover enough and her spirit will be brave will return back to
her husband in France and get the permission for the permanent leaving in France for ten years...
...Helena is forty-five. As they say in Russian proverbs "Forty five woman is fresh as a fruit berry
again!" After ten years of search of her own soul mate - when she got tired to be burned and to burn
herself - she got married with the businessmen from Holland. "He is not rich", - Helena said, - "but I
will not trade him for any millionaire. Because we are from the same generation, have the equal
thoughts, the same feelings". Of course, this rarely, but happened in the relations. Or may be this is
...You obedient servant, Natalia, is thirty-five. To the stable married life with the previous life
experience was not prepared. Succeeded to be before the freely and lucky carrier oriented person.
The marriage happened because age it shameful not to be married in such, the spouse is very
tolerant man and besides the new country- is the land of new possibilities and not only for the child
but good option to start new life. Although this possibilities are limited with the frames of secluded
family life on the neglected American farmstead. The husband is the man with the principles and he
(due to the bunch of circumstances) hardly can be moved from this place to more crowded one,
besides for the life in the big city you need to have bigger incomes.
Ludviga is 32. Her son Vladimir is only three years old. She changes the continents and come to
the new one into the marriage life, changed the good paid profession if pharmacist in her home
country and settle comfortable paid off flat to the functions of the housekeeper and the step mother
for the three sons of her husband from the previous marriages. Listening to her voice on telephone
and her stories about the marriage life - she is not very happy in this new role. Her spouse has no
extra money (he limit her even with the telephone cards to call motherland), and no extra forces in
his late sixties (already several months after marriage he doesn't want to go with her to the office of
immigration and naturalization to fill the new form and to legalize her with the papers). To my point of
view he only takes a long time over, making her the real home terror: though all the electronic mail is
thoroughly watched through and all the telephone talks are listened by him (he has some knowledge
of Russian). Although with such desire to control suffer a lot of foreign husbands, not only Americans.
And here is a little bit of happy stories. Angelica is thirty-seven. Her husband is thirty-eight years
old programmer from Texas, he warship her. She is his first real love. They expected for the small
one in their family, although she already has her child from the first marriage. Their life like the full
cup, and as you know people prefer not to share with the others with their emotions while they are in
luck, they are much more talkative when they are in troubles. But, I suppose she already drunk full
cup of worries in her last incarnations, if such happens to be.
Oleana is around forty- one, forty-two. Her life scheme easily in the proverb: "If you'll suffer for
long, you will get the right direction sooner or later". Days before in the previous marriages she was
not too happy, not is is married with the handsome and respectable businessman, from former
Soviets, who have his own business in USA. They live on Manhattan. She is studying in the
business college. Not to make big buck- just for pleasure - because even the right people like to do
something! She is very smart and thoughtful lady and although she is in general is satisfied with her
life, there happened in her narrative the fragments of misery and melancholy...
Irene is also around forty. She tried to involve her foreign fiancie into marriage during 3 years.
Finally she succeeds. Now her house - is like full plate. She got the pleasures from the life - also the
full measurements. And from his habitual greediness is almost nothing left - now she presents to her
not used second hand as he did during his before marriage trips to her home country, but the
diamond bracelets (as it called he came to "condensation"). He wants, although he is older then fifty
to have mutual baby (everyone from spouses has their own kids). This couple is very superstitious,
afraid of envies and black magic, that's why on the question: "How is going on?" reply rarely and
unwillingly. It means that they are happy with each other and the life in general. She does not work
on his proposal, sits at home and plays the keyboard.
What else to tell? Yes, they run, oh, how they run away from my long- suffering motherland! They do
not want- but run away, from bellowed and poor - to the patient and prosperous. A lot beforehand are
ready for the homesickness in the new land. And writes down the letter in to the Internet with the
hopes to find the fiance 23 year-old Anastasia. Because her creative artist talent and women
qualities can be needed only in the countries where she can find men and money. There is left in the
motherland 34 years old beauty Eleanora, because she is settle with the work for now and her
English is not perfect. But her boyfriend (the married by the way guy) - is not till the ends of her
days, and every woman want to have her own family and not to be transit corridor to the other one's.
Lost the rich fiancie from the States twenty-four years old Snejana, and now is waiting for the new
But those, who already succeed to try god luck abroad, may be would not to try it- of they know how
it can happen. Here is Old Russian proverb: "Its good to be useful where you was born".
But the History - total, human history, like the life - is going on. And one more friend of mine, forty-
tree years old Ariadna is going to try her luck with forty five years old catholic from Italy, who was
never married before. You think there are other ways out? The women just trying with their departures
to save their daughters from the same women underestimation in their home countries...
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constantly, and her head had turned with this. It's terrible to imagine what would be
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