girl pretends to be shy and self-giving and demonstrates sincerity of feelings and total absence of financial
interest. However, before long her material claims begin to grow with such a speed that even a well-off man
feels himself at sea. The thing that perplexes most is not the claims as such but the very progress they get.
Situation #3
A man meets a girl at the dating site and comes to see her. Their relations seem absolutely idyllic. He
generously grants her with both his consideration and money. The girl is also supposed to do her best to
please him. They part for a little while, leaving the man in a sweet anticipation of the next meeting with the
brightest prospects ahead. But suddenly the girl grows cold towards him. It's likely she no more needs him
and even his money. The man is bewildered. He cannot understand what he did wrong and how he
insulted her.
These three situations that supposedly hardly have anything in common are determined by the same and
only reason, which is increased self-esteem of the girls. Marriage is not quite the thing now in Russia;
therefore successful men avoid serious relations. This is the main stimulus for Russian girls to seek for a
husband abroad, which is not at all because of their rush for a happier life, as one may think.
Fruitless attempts to build the relationships with Russian men make a girl feel inferior and non-
demanded. And out of blue there comes an attractive man who is willing to love her and spend money on
her and even wants to marry her. Her self-esteem grows rapidly followed by her claims, which are not
material only. She begins to think that she deserves something better than she already has. She abandons
her benefactor keeping him in mind as a backup and goes on the prowl for her prince charming.
Let us be less judgmental towards the girls like that, as long as many men conduct in the same manner. If
you do not want to become a bench-warmer, you'd better not to give your lady any reasons for considering
you totally conquered with your heart belonging to her. There is no need, in fact, to tell her that she is not
more than just a candidate among the others, but you either should not be too early in giving her the hope
that you will certainly marry her.